Good Breakups

Reasons Why Breakups Are Good

1. Lowers emotional costs of both
   If you and your lover are not compatible, more conflicts will result and more time and energy will be spent to maintain the relationship.
   
   
2. Lowers your financial cost
   The longer the relationship lasts, the larger the financial costs for you and your lover become. It is better to end a relationship before you both are married, have children, and/or have car and house payments. Also, being in a bad relationship may affects your productivity and takes time away from furthering career goals of both you and your lover.
   
   
3. Lower your opportunity cost
   Being in a bad or mediocre relationship ruins the chances of finding real love for both. Being in a relationship gives you both a reason not to look for better lovers. As each of you becomes older, the potential pool for soulmate candidates decreases.

Protocol for Good Breakups

1. Limiting emotional cost of breakups
   • Taper the time you spend with your soon to be ex-lover to prevent both of you from going cold-turkey on love.
   • Become involved in activities that will increase your self-esteem such as working out or taking night classes to improve your skills sets.
   • Reestablish and strengthen your relationship with friends and family.
   • To lower guilt, encourage your lover to limit his breakup cost by using this protocol.
   • Your bitter lover may try to ruin your reputation after you dump them. Begin to identify popular people in your mutual social networks to neutralize or initiate a preemptive attack on potential damaging rumors.
2. Limiting financial cost of breakups
   • Take inventory of what is yours that your lover has and begin to gradually ask for them back.
   • If you loaned your lover any money, ask for it back.
   • If you are living with your lover, start looking for a new place.
   • If you are financially dependent on your lover, get a job or seek temporary financial assistance from friends and family.
3. Limiting unrealized invested cost from current love
   • By planning to break up, you are already limiting the loss of your invested time, money, and energy in the doomed relationship.
4. Limiting replacement cost for another love
   • Begin to identify popular people in your social networks to tell about your newly single state after you have broken up. These people will automatically spread the word to all the other members of your social network.
   • Begin writing your personal ad to post online.
   • Begin to identify potential dating candidates in your existing social network.
5. Limiting previous friendship loss
   • Bring up conversation about what your lover thinks about what would happen if you two break up.
   • If you implement this protocol, your ex-lovers and you should still be friends after breakups.

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