Love Advice About Emotional Availability

1. If love interest is already in love, breaking up his/her existing relationship is difficult.
   Your love interest, being in a relationship, usually will have less research time to determine whether you are better than their current lover. Also, their break-up costs may be large and your benefit must be great enough to overcome these costs.
   
   
2. People who always need to be in a relationship will less likely find their soulmates.
   Being in relationship makes people comfortable. They do not have to grow and maintain a social network to get dates. People already in relationships are usually too costly for singles to pursue, making these committed people unattractive to singles.
   
   
3. Dreamers are more resistant to falling in love than realists.
   Dreamers may be fantasizing of a soulmate that may not exist. They may hold out and may not commit believing one day they will eventually find their soulmate.
   
   
4. To singles, unattached people, all things equal, are more attractive than attached people.
   The research cost to pursue a person already in a relationship is usually large, because they are usually spending their free time with their current lover allowing less time for you to see them. You will probably have to spend a lot of resources trying to keep the affair a secret. Also, maintenance cost of a relationship with a committed person is also large. Their lover may cause you harm or even kill you if you are caught.
   
   
5. Crack or heroin addicts will have a harder time falling and being in love.
   These drugs work on the pleasure centers of the brain releasing chemicals that produce euphoria. This high may be more pleasurable than love. Maintaining a relationship with an addict will have very high maintenance cost. You have to deal with their withdrawal symptoms and they will probably deplete you of your financial resources to maintain their habits. Usually addicts fall in love with fellow addicts.
   
   

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