Relationship Advice About Commitment

Relationship Advice to Increase Commitment

1. Play hard to get. See how committed your love interest is to you.
   People who play hard to get usually have been hurt in the past. They usually have been dumped or cheated upon by past lovers. They are not smart enough to see that breaking up is a positive thing. Usually, these people will use tactics to trap you in a relationship because they fear being alone or do not have enough self-esteem to handle a break up. They will try to limit your social network and your attractiveness to increase your break-up cost and decrease their risk of being dumped by you. If you value yourself, you will never grovel to these types of people. You have better things to do than waste your precious time with these problem people. Your soulmate will never play hard to get.
   
   
2. Make lover prove his/her commitment by making him/her your bitch.
   This is a form of hazing. Fraternities, gangs, military organizations, and other organizations that value commitment will usually make it difficult for new members to enter their circle. This hazing process weeds out those who can not endure the high love cost of being in a relationship. Survivors of this hazing process are now more committed because they have invested heavily to enter the relationship. Their break-up cost has become too great. Anybody who makes you their bitch has issues and if you allow them to treat you like their bitch, you also have issues.
   
   
3. Work hard to increase net benefit of lover while he/she is with you.
   Instead of trying to increase your lover's break-up cost directly by limiting their social network or decreasing their attractiveness, do it right. Try lowering your love cost by learning ways to fulfill your own needs and increasing your attractiveness. Also, try to increase the total love benefit of your lover. By optimizing the soulmate ratio of your lover, the chances of them finding another lover better than you diminish. This results in increasing commitment.
   
   
4. Increase lover's break-up cost.
   Please see Break-Up Advice Section
   
   

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Relationship Advice Knowledgebase

• The Core Variables of Love
  • Relationship Advice About Emotional Availability
  • Relationship Advice About Past Relationship Experiences
  • Relationship Advice About Commitment
• The Benefits of Love
  • Emotional Needs
    • Relationship Advice About Esteem Needs
    • Relationship Advice About Social Needs
    • Relationship Advice About Spiritual Needs
    • Safety Needs
      • Relationship Advice About Stress Levels and Tolerance
      • Relationship Advice About Support Network
  • Relationship Advice About Entertainment Needs
  • Materialistic Needs
    • Relationship Advice About Primary Needs
    • Relationship Advice About Sexual Needs
    • Relationship Advice About Materialistic Desires
• The Costs of Love
  • Maintenence Cost
    • Relationship Advice About Emotional Cost
    • Relationship Advice About Time Cost
    • Relationship Advice About Financial Cost
    • Relationship Advice About Opportunity Cost