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Relationship Advice About Emotional Availability

Relationship Advice to Increase Love Interest's Emotional Availability

Undermine your love interest's existing relationship by using deceit and deception.
Using deceit and deception may work. However, if you are caught using these tactics, your love interest may view you as a deceitful person. Better to be upfront about your intention and use Love Economics to win them over. See advice below.
Use Love Economics to manipulate the variables in your favor.
If you feel that your soulmate is with the wrong person and is trapped in the relationship, you should influence the variables of Love Economics to displace your competitor. Most people do not fall in love with their soulmates. There are many factors why people enter relationships. Being educated in Love Economics, try to provide more or equal level of love benefits to your love interest at a lower cost. Be apparent of your intentions to your love interest but accept being a backup lover. If you competitor can not provide a better benefit/cost ratio than you, most likely you would win. All is fair in love and war.

By being competitive, you are doing three people favors. If you fail to win over your love interest, you have proved to your love interest and that their current love may be true. Only when a relationship is tested by outside forces can the value of the relationship be determined. To your love interest's lover, you remind them that other lovers are available so they better work hard to keep their lover. Competition forcing your love interest's lover to increase the soulmate ration of your love interest and reminds your competitor never to take their lover for granted. Even if you lose the fight, you would never be forced to live with the regret of not trying, allowing you to move on. If you win, you free two people, your love interest and their lover, from of a mediocre or bad relationship. For you, you have gained a soulmate.

Relationship Advice to Increase Your Emotional Availability

Never commit to a relationship. You are always single and available. Be a player.
Committing to a relationship too early may increase your chances of being stuck in a relationship and ruin your chances of finding your soulmate. You should focus on being happy alone, improving yourself, and continuing your search for your soulmate. If you are only in a relationship for sex, then be upfront about it and do not mislead your partner. Separate sex and love. You can have a sex partner and still be single. Most people confuse a sexual relationship with a love relationship, stop searching for their soulmates, and are then forced to turn a sexual relationship into a love relationship.
Be selective with relationships. It is sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along.
Do not enter a relationship for fun because you are ruining your chances of finding your soulmate. Being a relationship may give you temporary comfort but may condemn you to a life of loneliness. People who settle for relationships most likely will let their social networks shrink and postpone their search for a soulmate. When the relationship ends, they find the number of possible soulmate candidates have decreased dramatically. Also, being in a committed relationship makes you very unattractive to single people because the effort to breakup your relationship may be too costly.
If you have a close friend of the opposite sex (assuming you are heterosexual), always publicize that you are "just friends". Keep your distance from each other at social events.
You and your opposite sexed friends are great friends but you have both decided that you are not soulmates. Most people, seeing how close you two are, may think the two of you are a couple. Your potential soulmate, thinking you are already committed, may pass you up. Seeing you are already taken, people will not offer to introduce you to potential soulmate candidates, decreasing the size of your social network. Communicating this insight to your close friend will show them that you care a lot about their happiness.
End any relationship that has no future as quickly as possible. Learn to be alone.
Breaking up is a good when a relationship is not going anywhere, not providing for your needs, or costing you too much. Breaking up early lowers your invested costs, prevents you from being trapped, and limits your opportunity cost for a better lover.
If you are one of the lucky few that are in love with their careers, keep it a secret referring to your passion as "just a job" to avoid being labeled a "workaholic".
Most people do not love their jobs. People who love their jobs may be wrongly accused of being workaholics, a word with negative connotations. Allow time for yourself to explain to your love interest that having other passions besides being in a relationship is a good thing. If people see you as being too busy for a relationship, they may hesitate to introduce you to potential dates.
If you are stuck in an unwanted relationship, refer to your lover as "a friend" when he/she is not with you.
If you are stuck in a relationship, too weak to break up, or fear being alone, lying may be the next best thing. If you are caught then you risk being dumped. If others find out you are hedging yourself with your lover, you may gain a reputation as being an opportunist. It is best to reduce your break-up cost using Love Economics and free yourself of that relationship to continue your hunt for your soulmate.

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