Home Introduction 1.  The Manifesto's Purpose      The Need      The Method      How to Use the Manifesto      The Outcome 2.  Love Economics      Behavioral Models      The Core Variables      A Relationship      Model Assumptions      Emotional Availability      Past Love Experiences      Commitment      How to Use the Model 3.  The Benefits of Love      Emotional Needs      Entertainment Needs      Materialistic Needs 4.  The Costs of Love      Search Cost      Your Attractiveness      Your Social Networking Skills      Search Time Cost      Search Financial Cost      Rejection Cost      Research Cost      Maintenance Cost      Opportunity Cost      Breakup Risk      Risk of Being Dumped      Breakup Cost 5.  Attraction      Attractiveness      Qualities to Fulfill Needs of Others      Confidence      Lowering Love Costs of Others      Situational Forces      Other Attractive Traits 6.  Weaknesses of the Model 7.  Soulmates & True Love      Soulmate Theory      Number of Soulmate Believers      The Evidence of Soulmates      Chances of Marrying Your Soulmate 8.  Methods of Finding Soulmates      On Your Own      Virtual Communities      Personal Ads      Traditional Dating Services      Online Dating Services 9.  How to Solve Dating      The Solution      How You Can Help Solve Dating 10.  Appendix      Other Attractive Traits      Love Economics Translations References About the Author The Soulmate Manifesto: Uniting all Soulmate Believers In an Effort to Solve Dating Copyright 2003. Aluran, Inc.

The Soulmate Manifesto: Uniting All Soulmate Believers in an Effort to Solve Dating Emotional Needs 1.  Esteem Needs Having healthy esteem means being happy with yourself. If one of your life goals is to have a family, then getting married will make you happy. If you are career-oriented and you are meeting your career goals, you are happy. Esteem needs include having self-worth, self-approval, job satisfaction, and personal achievements. Insights and Predictions People who are attracted to screwed-up people may be fulfilling their esteem needs. Helping people increases self-esteem. Tactics to Fulfill Esteem Needs of Lover Interest Compliment your love interest often. Support love interest's dreams and encourage he/she to take risk. Be there when he/she fails. Tactics to Fulfill Esteem Needs Alone Focus on having a fulfilling career. Choose a small goal and reach it. Help others. 2.  Social Needs Social needs include the need for social acceptance, prestige, and access to certain people, events, or resources. Most people also need a sense of community belonging. Family and friends approval of you is higher if you are able to attract a mate. People stop feeling sorry for you for being dateless on Friday or Saturday nights. Society dictates at what age people should fall in love, marry, and start a family. In America, the age is between 18-35. People usually do not marry their soulmates. They marry the person they are with at the time when society tells them they should be married. Other people serve to validate your feelings, attitudes, and reality. When you are happy or sad, you want someone to validate your feelings making sure you are having the correct emotion for the situation. People are also useful to validate your attitudes and beliefs to make sure they are the same with the norm. Finally, other people are good references to make sure your senses have not failed you. You will be more convinced that you are an alien abductee if you are with people who have also been abducted. Insights and Predictions Married men are perceived to be more responsible than single men. Main reason for teenage sex is peer pressure. Reason for organized religion and cults. Good and bad moods can make people more susceptible to falling in love. Pursuing people who are social outcasts or have less social prestige is easier. Tactics to Fulfill Social Needs of Love Interest Be around love interest when there is bad or good news. Become popular by mastering social networking skills. Be well connected. Share your social network with love interest. Win over love interest's family and friends. Tactics to Fulfill Social Needs Alone Be involved in community service. Become popular by mastering social skills. Be well connected by yourself. 3.  Spiritual Needs Some people need to feel connected with a spiritual being. They need to believe there is life after death and that their existence has a purpose. Insights and Predictions Reason for organized religion and cults. Pursuing someone of the same religion as you is a lot easier. Tactics to Fulfill Spiritual Needs of Love Interest Support and encourage love interest spiritually. Be interested in love interest's religion, attend religious services with them, or convert. Tactics to Fulfill Spiritual Needs Alone Be spiritually fulfilled on your own by starting a spiritual quest. Join a religious or church group. 4.  Safety Needs Being in love provides a person to help you deal with life's stresses and dangers. The need for stress reduction depends on two factors. The first factor relates to your current stress levels and tolerance. The second factor relates to your support network size, quality, and access. Stress Levels and Tolerance People under stress or people who are unable to handle fears or anxieties need company. Individuals need other individuals to reduce stress. Other people serve as references to check your reality for real danger. For example, if the fire alarm goes off, you would look around to see if other people are running for the fire escape to judge whether the fire is real or if the alarm was pulled accidentally. Other people are sources of advice and support to help you get out of stressful situations. People's stress levels and tolerance vary due to differences in genetics and learned coping skills. Insights and Predictions To break someone, physically beat him/her and keep him/her in isolation. Main reason for funerals. Reason for existence of support groups like Alcoholic Anonymous (AA). Reason for having pets. Marriages and births rate will increase before and after a war. People will more likely fall in love when they are under stress. Tactics to Increase Stress Levels of Love Interest Wait for stressful situations to pursue. (e.g. a few weeks after graduation, finals week, a family death, or job firing). Encourage love interest to take a job where he/she has to fight traffic for at least 2 hours a day. To increase financial stress, encourage love interest to max out his/her credit cards getting him/her into debt. Tell love interest that he/she only deserves the best money can buy. Make sure love interest does not sleep by keeping him/her up late as possible. Discourage love interest from taking vitamins, living a healthy lifestyle, and exercising. Crank call your love interest to scare him/her. Do not get caught. Tactics to Lower Stress Levels Alone Learn stress coping or relaxation skills like meditation, yoga, or exercising. Take anti-anxiety drugs like Valium. Drink alcohol. Buy yourself a gun and support the NRA. Support Network Size, Quality, and Access The bigger, more solid, and more accessible your social support network is, the lesser your need to be in love. If you have many close friends, the better the odds that at least one will be near if you need them. Quality refers to how close or intimate you are with people in your support network. If you are not close or intimate with these people, you are suffering from emotional isolation, the first form of loneliness. No matter how big or strong your support network is, if you are unable to access it, you will experience the second form of loneliness, social isolation. So if you do not talk to your parents or siblings, then your friends become more important. If this secondary support network is nonexistent or fails you, you are more vulnerable to falling in love. Insights and Predictions People from dysfunctional families, no close friends, usually fall in love earlier. People from close families are likely more selective than those who are not. Explains why the pet industry is a $30 billion business. Tactics to Weaken Love Interest's Support Network Sever ties of love interest isolating him/her from his/her support network. Make sure love interest's family and friends hate you. Be like Romeo and Juliet. Set up love interest's best friend(s) with all your single friends to get them out of the picture. Convince love interest that his/her friends are bad for him/her and to stop being friends with them. Undermine love interest's spiritual life by discouraging he/she from going to religious worship. Prove that God does not exist. "We are all alone." Get rid of love interest's pet(s). Tactics to Strengthen Your Support Network Join a club, Greek society, church group, community group, or cult. Make and keep as many close friends as possible. Hire a psychiatrist or psychologist. 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