Besides having attractive qualities, confidence is very important. If you have attractive qualities but do not appear or act as though you do not have them, you are not attractive. An attractive person growing up in a family where he/she is told repeatedly that he/she is a loser will have low self-esteem and confidence. Another example is when an attractive woman thinks she is too fat because of the media. On the other hand, a nerdy rich guy has very high self-esteem and confidence because society tells him that he is an attractive mate. You may not have attractive qualities, but if you can appear confident that you have them, you will appear attractive.
Insights and Predictions
- People who think they are attractive are more resistant to love and likely to be more selective.
- People with low self-esteem or low confidence are more susceptible to love.
Tactics to Use Confidence to Your Advantage
- Pursue people with low self-esteem or confidence.
- Verbally abuse lover, always telling he/she is ugly, fat, and unwanted. He/she will never find another person to love him/her besides you.
Tactics to Increase Your Confidence
- Be successful at your career and other life goals.
- If in school, get good grades, be a cheerleader or a jock, or run for student body office. Be popular.
- Take care of yourself and always improve physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.
- Brainwash yourself by looking in the mirror everyday and telling yourself that you are an attractive person.
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