Besides the net benefit of love, emotional availability is an important variable of falling in love. Are you or your love interest available for love? People who are already in love are usually immune to falling in love with another person. They may be in love with the person in their current relationship, someone unobtainable, a career, God, an addiction, themselves, or a fantasy ideal soulmate.
Insights and Predictions
- If love interest is already in love, breaking up his/her existing relationship is difficult.
- People who always need to be in a relationship will less likely find their soulmates.
- Dreamers are more resistant to falling in love than realists.
- To singles, unattached people, all things equal, are more attractive than attached people.
- Crack or heroin addicts will have a harder time falling and being in love.
Tactics to Increase Love Interest's Emotional Availability
- Undermine your love interest's existing relationship by using deceit and deception.
- Use the Model to manipulate the variables in your favor.
Tactics to Increase Your Emotional Availability
- Never commit to a relationship. You are always single and available. Be a player.
- Be selective with relationships. It is sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along.
- If you have a close friend of the opposite sex (assuming you are heterosexual), always publicize that you are "just friends". Keep your distance from each other at social events.
- End any relationship that has no future as quickly as possible. Learn to be alone.
- If you are one of the lucky few that are in love with their careers, keep it a secret referring to your passion as "just a job" to avoid being labeled a "workaholic".
- If you are stuck in an unwanted relationship, refer to your lover as "a friend" when he/she is not with you.
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