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The Soulmate Manifesto:
Uniting All Soulmate Believers in an Effort to Solve Dating
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Risk of Being Dumped
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What is the probability of getting dumped? Your risk of being dumped is a function of your lover's commitment.
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lover's commitment
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lover's future net benefit from with you +
lover's future net benefit from another love +
lover's current breakup cost
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1. Lover's Future Net Benefit with You
If your lover believes that the future net benefit with you will be at acceptable levels, your chance of being dumped will decrease. To calculate this net benefit, you will have to analyze:
- What is lover's future benefit with you?
- What is lover's future maintenance cost with you?
- What is lover's future risk of being dumped by you?
Insights and Predictions
- People love people who love them back because their chance of being dumped is lowered.
2. Lover's Future Net Benefit from Another Love
Your lover's future net benefit from another love could be the future net benefit from being alone, another lover, a career, an addiction, or religion. Yes, you may get dumped if your lover decides to become a nun or priest. To analyze the risk of being dumped, look at your lover's potential net benefit from another love:
- What is lover's future benefit with another love?
- What is lover's future search cost to find another love?
- What is lover's future rejection cost to find another love?
- What is lover's future research cost for another love?
- What is lover's future maintenance cost for another love?
- What is lover's future risk of being dumped by another love?
So if your lover's future net benefit of being with you is less than another love's, the risk of you being dumped increases. This future net benefit of another love may not be real but could be imagined.
3. Lover's Current Breakup Cost
If your lover's current breakup cost is high, your risk of being dumped decreases. Breakup cost is explained in the next section.
Insights and Predictions
- If lover can easily find another love, your risk of being dumped increases.
- If another love has a lower maintenance cost, your risk of being dumped increases.
- If lover believes that risk of being dumped by another love is high, your risk of being dumped decreases.
- People who have unattractive lovers may be lowering their risk of being dumped.
Tactics To Reduce Your Risk of Being Dumped
- Make sure lover's net benefit with you is larger than competing love.
- Keep lover's search cost for another love high by limiting his/her social network size.
- Lower lover's attractiveness by undermining his/her financial success.
- Keep lover's maintenance cost with you lower than competing love.
- Lower lover's risk of being dumped by confessing your love often.
- Show commitment using a promise or engagement ring.
- Become jaded. Grow thick skin and get a heart of stone. Become immune to being dumped.
- Pursue people who are shy, unattractive, or unwanted.
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