The Soulmate Manifesto: Uniting All Soulmate Believers in an Effort to Solve Dating
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Soulmate Theory
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There are two types of people in this world, those who believe in soulmates and those who do not. The soulmate believers believe in soulmate theory while people from the other group believe in work-it-out theory. The table below illustrates the difference in beliefs.
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| There is one (or very few) right person(s) for me. |
There are many people with whom I can be happy with. |
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| Love is discovered. | Love is built over time. |
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| The right person is ideal or close to perfect for me. |
Person is not expected to be a perfect fit. |
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| The right person is ideal or close to perfect for me. |
Person is not expected to be a perfect fit. |
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| Finding the right person is the most important factor in a successful relationship. |
Effort is the most important factor. |
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| Passion is of great importance. |
Passion is relatively unimportant. |
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| People are hard to change. |
People can change. |
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If a soulmate believer believes he/she is with the right person, he/she is more satisfied with the relationship than a work-it-out believer. Soulmate believers who do not think they are with the right one are less satisfied than work-it-out believers.
Insights and Predictions
- Perfectionists, overachievers, idealists, dreamers will more likely be soulmate believers, while realists are more likely to be work-it-out believers.
- Soulmate believers have fewer and shorter relationships than work-it-out believers.
- Soulmate believers will more likely prefer romantic movies or love songs.
Soulmate Ratio
Now that all the variables of the Model have been explained, we can now attempt to define what is a soulmate. Based on the Model, the person who gives you the highest benefit per cost ratio on this Earth is your soulmate. The benefit to cost ratio is called your soulmate ratio. Mathematically, the ratio is written as:
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Your soulmate is the person who will maximize your soulmate ratio and vice versa. If another person exists that has the ability to give you a higher soulmate ratio than the person you are with, then the person you are with is not your soulmate. No one in this world, including being by yourself, could make you happier than being in love with your soulmate. True love is the love you share with your soulmate.
Some people believe that a potential soulmate may be living halfway around the world. Based on the Model, the odds are against this happening due to cultural differences unless you just moved from there. Also, geographical distance will increase search, research, and maintenance costs. Unless one of you decides to take the risk to move to the other person's location, he/she is not your soulmate.
The longer you are in love with your soulmate, the higher the soulmate ratio becomes. Better communication skills will emerge and you both will share more experiences resulting in more similarities. It is only after you finished the research phase and had been in love for many years can you determine if the person you are with is indeed your soulmate.
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